Hillary Chybinski: Finding your "IT"

Tuesday, July 10, 2012

Finding your "IT"

Last night I was talking about life with some really smart, really good friends.  We started talking about "it". . .you know, "it". . .when you make it. . .when you've gotten to where you want to be.

I looked at my friends and said, "It isn't something static.  My 'it' is a moving target, it's not the same today as it was a year ago."

Going to college and coming of age in the late 80's/early 90's, we had a goal.  Graduate college, get a job, make a lot of money, eventually get married and have a family.  You went to college with a purpose - to be a Journalist, an Accountant, a History Teacher.  There didn't seem to be any options - this was the path I was on and everyone I knew was on.  There was always the military and a few other options, but seriously there was one main path.

I don't know about you, but life doesn't seem so clear cut these days.  First of all there's a lot less money for kids to go to college.  Those graduation jobs are elusive and don't pay what many recent grads expect.  Marriage and family? Maybe. Is it just because I am older (maybe even wiser?)?

Perhaps it's just a mid-life crossroad or reflection on my part.  But my past "it", the one I always thought I wanted. . .isn't anywhere near what my "it" is right now.  The "it" I have right now, the me of 1995 couldn't even imagine would be a possibility or something I would want.

I guess what I'm saying is "Don't Go Chasin Waterfalls". . .that "it" that you've been after. . .may not REALLY be what you want.

What's your "it" right now?

catch you soon -

4 comments:

  1. I love you and your it, and every it you have as it changes!

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    1. You are TOO TOO sweet and I miss seeing you!!

      Hillary

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  2. I have to agree with your, Hillary! My "it" is hard to describe right now. I feel like I'm close to "it". I'm almost to "it". What "it" is? I'm not sure.

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  3. Love this. I'm very get "it" and it doesn't make me happy so I want "it" more. Or maybe I get a partial it, add a few more its and wonder: what in the frig is taking so long.

    Two weeks ago, I knew exactly what I wanted. This week I am not so sure. But when you said this to me the other night, it was so comforting. As long as It is not a clown or a spider, we're cool.

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